How TO Be A Hero In Case Of A Robbery

How To Be A Hero In Case Of A Robbery.

It was a warm afternoon when Mr DIY (that's what I like to be known) tried to screw on an over priced door bell button on the outside wall of my office. A visitor who was also a doctor exited through my gate and noticing my labourious effort asked if vandals might get to my doorbell (I wish some people will keep their opinions to themselves). As he walked away a motorbike approached and the pinion rider jump down waving a 'parang' machete. He placed it at the doctors throat and demanded his wallet. The doctor was so terrified that he fell down and tried to shield himself with his hands. The robber was getting impatient and was threatening to chop him. I quickly jump forward (think superman indestructible) and shouted don't chop and told the doctor to quickly hand over his wallet (does that make me an accomplice?). The robber grabbed it and suddenly it dawn on me that I would be the next target. I took wings (not superman but chicken little)and closed the gate behind me and the robber seeing this jump on to the waiting motorbike and sped off.

It was a traumatic experience but it ended with no serious injury. On hind sight I realised that by being a hero intervening while holding only a 10cm screwdriver was really foolish as the robber was holding a 90cm machete! (Talk about size does count). I also felt like a coward because I abandon the doctor and fled behind the gate. It was like from hero to zero! Using EFT I had to tapped on being a foolish hero and a clever coward after all I could have been chopped up and robbed.

I offered to do EFT therapy on the traumatised doctor but he said he was OK. I know he is NOT but why argue. He was more worried about his lost documents. The next day he could only limp as one of his knee had become painfully swollen due to a twisted knee. His adrenaline rush had pumped enough endorphine for him not to feel pain but the next day was a different story as his hormones settled down. His knee will probably recover in 2 weeks but I have a feeling the trauma of being rob at machete point will not. I could also help him recover from his knee injury much faster with Qigong but being a western train doctor he is probably ignorant and sceptical- too bad for him. I know there are many robbery and snatch thief victims out there who will certainly benefit from EFT-Emotional Freedom Techniques. If you are one of them do visit http://www.eftwonder.com/.

Isaac Lim

BLUSHING PROBLEM? TRY SURGERY!

BLUSHING PROBLEM? TRY SURGERY! As I read this article in disbelief I had to remind myself that I am not reading a horror story but a medical article published in the local newspaper. There are some people who are suffering from acute blushing problem even at the mere mention of their names. This makes them conspicuously self-conscious (like light bulb lighting up in a crowd). It leads to more blushing and eventually social anxiety that makes them want to avoid people. Medical science had come up with a wonderful breakthrough in solving blushing issues by surgically removing the sweat regulating gland and presto no more blushing! Wow, medical science sure knows how to solve man’s most basic problem just ‘cut it off’. Do I sound sarcastic? Well not to the red face victims but to the scalpel happy surgeons who ought to learn to blush. It seems that the cure will have a little side effect like having to change your clothes six times a day because you see the sweat regulating glands had been removed, remember?

Imagine going to office lugging a baggage with you because you have to have six changes of clothes. Your colleagues will envy you as you will look like a fashion model coming out with a new change of clothes at breakfast, tea beak, lunch, coffee break, toilet break and whatever excuse you can find to make a quick change, like superman perhaps until they shake your hands and it feels like you handed them a wet fish. Imagine your boss requesting you to get some documents on the next floor and you come back looking like you got drenched in the rain but that’s okay since you can’t blush anymore. If these does not cause social anxiety what does?

All these make me more certain that complementary and alternative therapies like EFT that does not depend on chemicals and surgeries are the way to better health. Emotional Freedom Techniques gently and effective resolves many issues like blushing issues. My experience with this issue is that they originates from childhood and once I have resolved the root cause the blushing problem is removed or diminished. One of my patients told me how a psychologist told him to get a dark tan to solve his blushing problem because then no one can see him blushing! He had to sit on a chair under the hot sun to get a tan. When he met him the next time he was told off for not achieving a darker tan. Medical science is so good at ‘covering up’ or ‘cutting out ‘to resolve our health issues instead of going into the root cause of the problem. To be fair the article at the end has a caveat that say blushing problems is psychological and should first be resolved with medications or psychotherapy but here are happy patients going around without their sweat regulating glands and with burn out light bulbs. If EFT can resolve it without 'covering up' and 'cutting out' why not try it or better still learn EFT! However do give time as some patients demand to be healed in one or two sessions even though they had been suffering from the problems for 10 to 20 years. Ahem...you are blushing!

Isaac Lim

http://www.eftwonder.com/

Can You Keep Your New Year Resolutions? -Test it!

WISHING ALL MY READERS A HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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Can You Keep Your New Year Resolutions? -Test it!

I am a great fan of New Year resolutions. I love the way people go on about being a better person, doing greater good, becoming an achiever, hitting their first million, losing some weight and the next thing you know these poor souls has to add another resolution to their resolutions. I must fulfil my resolutions and not break it again! Do you know how many victims lie in morass and despair in the carnage of unfulfilled resolutions? If there is a graveyard for broken and dead resolutions it probably has a huge blinking neon lighted signs that says 'Sorry Full House Try Again Next Year!

As a therapist I will tell you exactly why you failed...again. Most people think that keeping resolutions are a matter of will power. If it were we would be living in a wonderful world because we only need to will it. So be glad it is not that you are weak willed. But the reality is that resolutions are an emotional respond to perceived failures. We are dealing with emotions a subject people find difficult to deal with. As another year comes to an end it invokes in us an emotional review of our lives. Have I achieve anything I can be proud off? Have I wasted another year? Have I..... and the list of goes on. Resolutions are band aid to feelings of perceived failures or shortcomings and because of that it does not address the real issue of why we think we failed in the first place. So to pre-empt any failure why not put your resolutions to test first? You can by a simple procedure using kinesiology or muscle testing a technique used in EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques http://www.eftwonder.com/ to test if you can fulfil your resolutions.

Technique 1: The 'O' Ring Finger Test.
Using your index finger and thumb join the tips to form a ring.
If you used your left hand fingers to make an 'O' ring insert your right index finger into the ring. Don't worry this is not an obscene sign but a valid therapy tool (I usually inform my clients of its purpose when using it in case of misunderstandings).
Say aloud 'My name is.....' and try to pull the ring apart with you right index finger so that it will break through the finger tip joint of the 'O'. Now do it again until it barely stops your finger from breaking through. This is the 'O' ring pressure you must maintain to keep the finger tips together. Next say 'My name is .....(give a false name)'. You will be surprise how easily it breaks through! Repeat until you get the results consistently. Now say aloud your resolutions 'I want to lose weight by August next year' or whatever resolutions you have made and apply the finger test. Next say aloud 'I do not want to lose weight by August next year' do the finger test again. If it breaks through easily at the 'I want to lose weight....' and shows resistant at the 'I do not want to lose weight....' you will not be able to fulfil your resolutions. Your subconscious has spoken. If you want to know why, you need to see me for this.

Technique 2: The Rubbing Finger Test.
Form an 'O' ring with your fingers again but this time using the same fingers rub the index in a circular direction on the tip of the thumb. Feel the sensation. Is it rough/sticky or smooth? Say your real name and rub how does it feel? Say a false name how does it feel? Your real name should be smooth the false rough or sticky. Now test your resolutions as you did in the first technique and do the rubbing finger test. If it is smooth when you say your resolution then you will fulfil your resolution if it is rough and sticky you will unlikely to fulfil it.

How To Make Resolutions That Will Pass The Test.

Be Specific -For example if you want to lose weight do not say in your resolutions 'I want to lose weight' instead say I want to lose 5 kilos.

Be Objective - I want to lose 5 kilos by August.

Be Realistic- Do not say I want to lose 20 kilos by next month your subconscious knows the truth.

Be Purposeful- 'I want to lose weight because... '. If the reason given is not something you want, you will not likely succeed.

Now after you have modified you resolutions according to the 4 Be's retest with either Finger Testing Technique whichever suits you better.
Congratulations if you have successfully made your resolutions more achievable! If you are unable to do so there are probably emotional blocks or psychological reversals and you will need to use EFT to unblock it. Wishing all a Healthy, Happy New Year 2009!

Wishing You A Happy New Year 2009
Isaac Lim
http://www.eftwonder.com/

Letter to the RATS Editorial

The RATS Newspaper has a column for letters to the editor and a recent comment on doctors not listening to their patients touched a not so melodious chord in me. So I wrote this as I waited for 3 hours in Uni... hospital to see a doctor which took only 10 minutes to deal with my case. I was further subjected to waiting another 1 hour for the nuclear appointment counter to open as it was lunch hours then and another 30 minutes for the medication. In all I was at the hospital from 9.30am to 4pm. Even the dead will groan impatiently and the sick will have more reasons to be sick!

To The Editor, 11/12/08

I refer to MBA’s emotive letter in ‘Try lending patients an ear, too, doctor’ and Edward Wong’s informative supporting letter. Edward had helpfully highlighted that 50 medical schools in US had incorporated the subject of ‘spirituality’ into their courses. This is probably due to the dawning realisation that man is not just a biological machine but also a ‘spiritual being’. We possess conscience and emotions which until today medical science had not been able to locate its existence in the biological brain even though they can tell you which part of the brain controls which specific body functions. Empathy is part of this spirituality. ‘I feel your pain’ is not a metaphor or just words to console. It is literal. Some who turn to complementary medicine do so because they are treated as ‘spiritual being’. Advanced complementary therapist can even feel the patient’s emotions emphatically during the course of their treatment. This ability to monitor their patient’s feelings effectively helps them in their treatment.
Edward Wong mentions that Jefferson Medical School in Philadelphia had created an ‘empathy index’ to measure the physician’s effectiveness in dealing with their patients. Incorporating spirituality and developing empathy index is not clinical medicine going backwards but it is to be considered progressive and an advancement in medical care that is holistic. Patients will tell you that they prefer to be treated as human beings with feelings rather than machines to be repaired. Waiting 2 to 4 hours in the hospital to see a doctor (which is what I am doing now as I write this letter) only to be abruptly asked a few diagnostic questions and bundle out in 5-10 minutes without a word of assurance does nothing to the emotionally anxious patient. It instead leaves a sense of being ignored, deprived and ‘miss-treated’. Yes the doctor has all the medical knowledge but it is the patient who is experiencing all the pain. Their complaints should not be dismissed as a waste of time and ignored but should be considered as part of their clinical symptoms which will help in their diagnosis. If doctors wonder why patients turn to alternative and complementary medicine I advise them to just ‘listen to their patients’.

Isaac Lim
Emotional Freedom for All -PJ

Sexual Abuse - Don't Ignore It.

Sexual abuse is a terrible experience and traumatic especially for a defenceless child. It emotionally and psychologically scars the victim for the rest of her life. I recently helped a victim removed her scars after 40 years living with it. The scars was not so much the horror of the predator's action or face as she did not understand what was happening as a six year old but the inaction of the mother and loved ones! Yes not doing anything to help will cause more hideous scars than the predators can inflict. The sense of not being loved or cared for, the sense of being betrayed by someone who is supposed to protect you, the feelings of being so insignificant that people don't bother when you cry for help. This is what will stick to their minds and being. It will affect their decisions and colour their perception of people for the rest of their lives.

Using EFT http://www.eftwonder.com/ I had been able to remove the scars which others had considered non- existent because it was not visible to the untrained. Emotional scars continue to cause pain. We think it is buried and gone and time will heal but emotions are energy and energy in physics cannot be destroyed only change from one form to another or transferred. Unless one knows how to process negative emotions it will remain stuck in certain parts of the body and cause psychosomatic dis-ease. EFT gently and quickly process it without drugs. My patient only needed 2 sessions to find permanent relief. There are so many more who continue to suffer silently from past traumas not knowing what to do and who to turn to. I know their fears and their laughter ring hollow because they are only used to cover and hide their true emotional state-their pain.

WARNING - If your child ever tells you about physical abuse often poorly explained and expressed do listen and not set it aside as just imaginations because you may unintentionally scar your child more than the predator ever could.
Futher info: http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/child_sexual_abuse

Isaac Lim
The Laughing Therapist
www.eftwonder.com

Mental Doctors? So What's New?

The *RATS Online (*spell backward) reported as a front page news:
At least five doctors to suffer from mental woes every month
Every month, at least five doctors are found to be suffering from mental illnesses, director-general of health Tan Sri ........... said.

I am not surprised.The simple fact is that 30 %, yes that's one third, yes that's 1:3 people around you are having mental health issues. This is the findings of the UN report applicable for almost all countries.
Think about it 30% of the teachers in your/children school are suffering mental health problems, so are the barbers snipping your head with scissors and razors, so are the bus and taxi drivers, so are the politicians that govern our country (that explains a lot), so are the law enforcers, so are the ....well I could go on all night but lets faced it we all have our mental issues, it's just that we are afraid to let others know. Hello, are you still there? The question is 'How do we resolve this problem?' Simple says a mathematician, 'All you need to do is get another 21 % to join the mental health problem group and you have 51% that makes them as majority ....normal! All the rest would then be considered abnormal.'
That is so rational. But seriously this is no laughing matter. As a therapist I am so put off with people who think they are a 'problem'. The reality is that society has learn to ignored their pleading emotions crying for help because of stress until we reach a stage of mental burnt out. Something like ignoring the blinking red light on our car dashboard until you car engine suffers a sizure and the radiator begins to froth and gush. We are not suppose to admit, talk, show our emotions and feelings because it makes us look weak and what will others think about us? So we soon find ourselves in the 30% bracket. Doctors are not immune they are only human, so are teachers and all of us. Our brains are so fragile it is encased in a natural helmet call the skull but our mind which is the seat of human spirit, emotions and consciousness have no natural protection. We need to learn to treat our emotions as guardians of our health not something to be hidden in shame and suppressed. Emotions are energy that must be process correctly or it will remain in a stuck state in our bodies and negatively impact our health. EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques (http://www.eftwonder.com/) are one of the leading energy psychotherapy that is in the forefront of helping us process our emotions effectively. Parent will be able to use it to bring up emotionally balanced children and adults can use it to heal themselves and cope with lives many traumas. We need to learn to control our emotions before it controls us.