Tuesday, June 30, 2009

MICHAEL JACKSON ABUSED SINCE YOUNG


I had always looked at Michael Jackson and felt a sense of pity for him and that was before
I knew about his abused past. While the world is in mourning for him I must say that they
should have done that even before he died for in some way a part of him had already died.
In his explosive interview he spoke of how as the Jackson 5 singing brothers they were
violently attacked with a belt if they even made a single dance step mistake.
Their mother will cry out in vain, 'Stop, stop you will kill them!'
Michael were so traumatized that until today the mere appearance of his father will
cause him to vomit and fall unconscious. The father was a taskmaster who literally
whipped them into shape. While the world enjoyed the talent of Jacksons little did they
know how they were deprived of freedom and their childhood as they were made to sing
in bars and sleazy clubs even at 3am in the morning. The result of years of abused was a
person who did not want to grow up because he did not want to miss his childhood.
He became as someone described a strange Peter Pan surrounded by children and in his
Neverland ranch playground. It was an amusement park and zoo all roll into one.
He bused children to his Paradise because he said he never had the opportunity to play with children.
The problem was people could not understand him and he was called 'wacko', 'alien' and accused of many things. Nobody could fathom the little child trapped in an adult body.

As a therapist and if he was still alive I would need to help the little boy out of his trapped state. I would need to removed the stuck energy that is still in his body as is so evident in the interview the trauma was being reexperienced by him. He needs to be released from it with the 'Movie technique'. His fathers terrifying presence needed to be reframed. As a side note his fathers face reminds me of Joseph Smith who abuse his daughter and kept her and the resultant children in a dungeon for years. Michael took a lot of painkillers that finally killed the pain and him. His pain was more emotional than physical and that is why no amount of pills could still his torment. Poor Michael Jackson, he was driven by pain all his life and now he has hopefully found relief.

Isaac Lim
www.eftwonder.com


Wednesday, June 17, 2009

LAUGHTER THERAPY

I have heard so much about this infectious form of therapy spreading from India to the rest of the world that I had to experience it myself when it came to my part of the world. Unlike H1N1 which WHO has said is unstoppable and yet is trying to stop it (by isolating every visitor with even a hint of fever) this laughter therapy is welcome anywhere in the world. I have viewed it on youtube and all I can say is - It's CRAZY! What self respecting person would be caught laughing out loud in public with eyes open wide and tongues sticking out at another person? However being name laughing yoga in India , laughing qigong in China and laughter therapy elsewhere does make it sound respectable... I think. So I decide to do something crazy in the name of health- attend laughter therapy in a park.
It was a wet but cooler Sunday evening when I arrived at the park. I forgot to change my formal leather shoes to jogging shoes and that meant exposing my Rm.250 shoes to mud and what not. We had to use umbrellas as it was still drizzling which was fine with me as I could hide my face from what I heard was a local newspaper reporter with a bazooka for a camera in our midst.I certainly did not want my face in the news with tongues sticking out and laughing like crazy. I mean there are better ways of getting famous like being in the obituary. I did bring a cap and false mustache just in case.
However I need not worry as it turn out that there were also about 100 crazy guys like me willing to laugh in the rain. There is some truth in the saying that 'there is comfort in the company of fools'.
We found an open space next to a nearby hospital (SJMC) and the laugh leader said this will bring cheer to the doctors and patients when they hear our laughter. I was a little bit sceptical about that prognosis maybe we will be mistaken as patients from the psychiatric department having a day out at the park. I am a little self conscious but really its not everyday we do this.
Forming a circle our esteem laugh leader explained the scientific rationale of laugh therapy and it's origin. Laughter not only boost our oxygen level but releases good hormones like endorphin and others that keeps us healthy and stress free. The only warning is if you have a serious heart condition you may laugh yourself to death. Wow! that was reassuring. We had a some warm up because laughing without it can cause belly cramps and lock jaws. Wow! that was reassuring. I should note that before I burst out laughing the next time.
Forming a circle we were taught how to laugh and look silly. There were several techniques. We learn the lion laughter even though I can't recall hearing lions laugh before. We widen our eyes, stuck out our tongues and held our hands out like claws and laughed. Try doing that and you will understand when I say I never realise laughing is hard work. We did the 'teh tarik' laughter that is an imaginary tea making process which I enjoyed and ended up with appreciation laughter to God, self and each other. I though that was good. How often have we stumbled trying to sound appreciative like ' I like your funny dress' instead we can just say I ho,ho,ha,ha you' while smiling and giving them the thumbs up, shaking hands or hugging. With all the merriment I forgot all about H1N1 and avoiding close contacts. Well, laughing therapy is suppose to be healthy so what!
Isaac Lim