Horror Stories- Bald spots, Grey Hairs, Acne and Ugly Nails.

Horror Stories- Bald spots, Grey Hairs, Acne and Ugly Nails.

Bald Spots

Maureen was 32 year old sales executive. Her job meant long hours and meeting clients all over the world. She not only had to be meticulous in her job but also in her appearance. One morning while grooming herself in front of  a hotel room mirror she was horrified to notice that she had a bald spot on top of her head. It was not just less hair but an ugly bald spot where no hair grew. 

She immediately made an appointment with a dermatologist. In the questionnaires to be filled there were questions about her stress levels. Dermatologists know that stress can cause hair to fall out. Many people think it is age related or some kind of skin infections and will visit a doctor for medication. Others will try different on-the-shelves hair tonic, restorer and other claims of hair growth ointment or shampoo. But few think it is stress related and go to the wrong practitioners. Stress increases cortisol production which increase oil secretions in the skin Men and women can develop alopecia -- bald spots of hair in the beard or scalp -- when they're under stress.

Nervous habits like twirling your hair can also pull hairs out, causing bald spots resulting in bald spots. If stress is the cause perhaps victims should consider visiting psychotherapist to help them reduce their stress levels or learn self help techniques like EFT- Emotional Freedom Techniques to reduce and remove their stress levels.

Grey Hairs

If you have premature grey hair you will receive comments like 'You worry too much!'  Now it is proven to be true as stress can cause this too. Bald spots can also grow back with grey hairs. "And then when the hair grows back, sometimes it grows in as gray hairs," Dr. Mayoral says. So it's true that stress does cause gray hairs! 

Acne

Notice how your on your big day when you should be looking your best you instead have an acne outbreak. This is a nightmare for a bride. Stress induce oil production and that is a recipe for acne.

Deform Nails 

Notice how children tend to deal with nervous nail biting. Adults however play with their nails, "When they're not thinking about it, they are picking at their nail and they actually damage the growth plate of the nail and the nail grows in with a ridge in the middle of it," Dr. Mayoral says.

Stress induce cortisol production which affects how we look. Beauty in this case is really skin deep. Stress is actually an acceptable word for this acronym I have been using in my talks. Stress and Trauma Results in Emotional Stuck States. EFT helps to remove these stuck states very quickly. If you want to look beautiful or handsome learn to control your stress levels.

With Happiness

Isaac Lim

Energy Psychology Centre

www.eftwonder.com

Stuttering Cured in 45 Minutes and other Speech Defects.

Have you read or seen the movie 'The King's Speech' a true story? What would the future king do if he is unable to address his subjects in public. when he stutters with difficulty with embarrassingly long pauses just to get the words out. How does he lead a nation when they cannot understand him?

King George turns to a diverse number of 'therapist' that forced him to fill his mouth with cold marbles while attempting to read and even tried  smoking to calm his throat. If he had not given up he might have choked to death or even die of lung cancer. In the end he found a therapist who was able to help him with daily sessions involving reading, jaw and vocal cord exercises, rolling on floor and what not. It was tedious and real hard work that was time consuming and require sheer dedication. One can say that the king was willing to sacrifice for the sake of the nation. The good news was he did recover eventually after all that.


EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can achieve the same result in 45 minutes! One of my Level 1 graduates had the opportunity to treat a person with stuttering issue. Read his email testimony:

'I would said that the whole treatment was quite fast. From interviewing to end about 45 mins. total. What I did was find out what was the cause of the stuttering. Fortunately, he was able to tell me that since young when he was able to speak, his mother used to slap him whenever he talks. I then go through the BR with him and get him to do it with sincerity. He is a qigong practitioner as well and have confidence in me as I have been teaching him a couple of qigong form. We meet up a week later at our regular qigong session and the stuttering is down to almost zero, so much so that you would not know he is a stutterer. I like EFT for its simplicity and quick result, so there is not much to write. Maybe you could ask me some questions that I might have miss out. No, I have not seen the King's Speech yet. I did not know it is about the Kings' stuttering.'

Not only is EFT able to help speech defects like stuttering but also dyslexia. I have also treated some with a common speech issue 'fear of public speaking' very effectively with just 1-3 sessions depending on how many related aspects are involved.

With happiness
Isaac Lim
Energy Psychology Centre
www.eftwomder.com

Mental Health Test for our children? My Letter to the Star Editor

Kudos on mental health test, but...

Mental Health Test for our children? My Letter to the Star Editor

I would like to give the thumbs up to the health and education ministry initiative to launch the pilot project in four secondary schools to address mental health issues. But I would like to question the use of terms like 'mental health test' as it is noted to be a sensitive issue. I fear that such terms would be largely misunderstood by the general population especially students, parents and even teachers. I can imagine students who fail the 'mental health test' would be mock by fellow student as 'mental' as the term is used loosely in normal English language to denote in derogatory terms of people with abnormal behaviour. Parents will not want their children to be labelled with such a stigma and teachers may need to be taught how to help rather than isolate such 'emotionally challenged people'. Yes, that would be a more appropriate term to apply. Instead of 'mental health test' why not 'emotional health test' after all there is a blurred distinction that diagnose one as suffering from acute emotional stress and another from mental diseases. We will be able to win over the general public to this pilot project if we promote and 'reframe' it in a less threatening way. I have no doubt 'mental health evaluation' is medically correct term but is it socially and politically correct? Even the DSM used to diagnose mental disorder takes pain to be correct, "A common misconception is that a classification of mental disorders classifies people, when actually what are being classified are disorders that people have. For this reason, the text of DSM-IV (as did the text of DSM-III-R) avoids the use of such expressions as "a schizophrenic" or "an alcoholic" and instead uses the more accurate, but admittedly more cumbersome, "an individual with Schizophrenia" or "an individual with Alcohol Dependence." 

Another misconception to correct is that the actual issue is not the environment but the inability of the general population to deal with negative emotions. As Dr Abdul Kadir said 'the project was a move in the right direction because puberty period could be challenging for secondary school students who might face emotional issuesrelated to studies, peer and parental pressures and unsafe neighbourhoods. '  All of us face these stressful environmental but not all of us suffer from emotionally disorder as a consequence of these. This is because many are not able to deal with and process negative emotions properly. Aside from arguments of predisposition and genetics let us consider emotional management. There is a need to teach students how to deal with their emotions. It is strange that we all process hundreds of emotions daily yet there is no course or subject that helps us do what is a daily necessity. Does it come naturally to everyone? Statistic show otherwise, Malaysian Psychiatric Association article on anxiety reports, "Anxiety disorder is very common. A rough estimate is that all the anxiety disorders together may affect up to 25% to 30% of the population".  If we can process our emotions properly it would not deteriorate to acute emotional stress and later to disorders like anxiety disorders, panic attacks, depression and even mental illness. In other words why don't we teach our kids to deal with their emotions at an early age? The results can be emotionally balance children who graduate to become emotionally balanced adults. If we have moral education why not have 'emotional intelligence' as part of it. Today we have cognitive therapy, cognitive behaviour therapy and other sub-modalities in the psychotherapy world like NLP and EFT amongst others that can be integrated and simplified for secondary students. I am sure we will be churning out modal students of great humanistic potentials with this subject of 'emotional intelligence'!

Isaac Lim

Member of Malaysian Psychotherapy Association

www.eftwonder.com

TOP 10 2011 NEW YEAR GREETINGS TO INSPIRE YOU!

Happy? New Year 2011. When someone enthusiastically greets you  with this annually recycled greeting do you know what it really means? Did he mean 'happy' because we are having yet another excuse to party till morning? Does he mean prophetically you are going to have a 'happy' 2011? Does he mean 2010 for the world was such a horrible year and a new year will be like 'good riddance' to 2010?  Isn't it strange how we greet each other without really understanding what it means. Let's greet each other meaningfully. Here is my greeting to you.

May 2011 be a special year to you all,
Let it be a year of blessings,
Fill with happiness and joy in everything you experience,
Allow life to be our teacher and learn from lives experience,
Tapping away the bad and making it all good,
Let us feel healthy and thank every part of our body that is good,
Tap away the pain and make it better,
Feel beautiful about yourelf because you are,





For me it was good and stable in health, wealth and everything else. We had so much to thank for and so much to learn from our mistakes. It's been a year of living life to the best and accepting things as they come or not come. EFT has been the life tool in getting through the worst and getting the most from life's challenges. I would like to be able to face 2011 with new vigor and vision and would like all my EFT graduates, clients, friends to tap with me on this fomula for achieving it and making 2011 awesome!

MARRY, MERRY CHRISTMAS?

Marry, Merry Christmas is here again.  No it is not a spelling mistake. I actually got married on Christmas day. Why choose Christmas day? Well... I thought that way I only need to buy one gift for two occasion. Wait before you call me a cheap skate I was just joking. Really, I am very generous for this Christmas I bought myself an Ipad. Yes, a 64G wifi Ipad. It is my first apple and now I find it does not sync well with my windows pc. I am getting sleepless nights.

So what am I getting for my wife? I offered her a Ford Escape but since she feels we cannot afford it so I am getting her a ....surprise! Unless a kind soul out there wants to make my generous gift a reality. After all it is not just another wedding anniversary. It is our 'Twentieth anniversary' I can't believe we were married for 20 years!! I mean I am still madly in love with her. Who says marriage grows stale with time. Our love grew in in depth and maturity like cheese mmmm... no make that wine.

Marriage is never without storms. Make sure your marital ship has these crew members name commitment, compassion, compromise and connection on board. The 4 C's of marital success. If you can't find that in a partner don't marry him/her. If you think you can change the partner to 'improve' him/her after you get married, you are in for a shock so will your partner. It is in the first 3-5 years that is make and break as both adjust to each others peculiarities, habits, idiosyncrasies, expectations and phobias. Wait a minute, you mean we did not see that until we got married? Do you remember the saying 'Love is blind"? It's true.

Also there is a special tool that can save trouble marriage and help make the first 3-5 years so much easier for both partners it's call EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques. Marriage is mainly an emotional bond. Not only love but also many negative emotions like anger, jealousy, low self esteem, bitterness and many more. Learning to handle your emotions and understanding why you get angry at each other over the slightest issue will take away the hidden rocks that can shipwreck your marriage.

As a therapist I had the opportunities to tap away all these negative emotions from couples who see me. They even tell me 'You are our last hope'! Their marriage grew stronger after that. Intimacy improves and is restored. Sexual and financial issues are solved. I and my wife also tap together on our issues. If this is the secret to successful marriage you can add one more crew member in you marital ship - EFT!

To all my friends and EFT graduates,

Marry and Merry Christmas to all who are celebrating this seasons happiness and joy.

With happiness

Isaac Lim

MEMORY ERASING DRUG? FORGET IT !



MEMORY ERASING PILLS



Do you want to forget or remove any unpleasant memory? Medical science may have found a drug for that. There is of course no guarantee that other parts of your memory might be erased as well like the time you fell in love with your wife or soul mate. But why do we need to remove or erase these 'negative' memories when there is a simple method of erasing and removing the emotional trauma of that memory. Imagine being able to recall the traumatic memory without feeling angry, fearful, panicky and all the associated negative emotions. EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can do just that. Why erase your memory when you can erase the negative emotions? It is essential that these memories be retain so we do not repeat the same mistakes. If you fell into the river and almost drown resulting in a phobia of water would you remove the phobia or the memory of falling into the river? Certainly the phobia not the memory which could in future help us to be more careful. A traumatized raped victim need to be able to testify in court. If to remove the trauma we need to remove the memory how is she going to testify? EFT will remove the trauma and she can still recount the incident without the trauma. Natural News gave a fantastic report in their following article.

"(NaturalNews) Drug researchers are working on a mind-altering chemical that could erase your memories. It's all being pursued under the umbrella of "mental health" with claims that this could help victims of emotional trauma. The idea that you can "heal" a patient by chemically lobotomizing them is, of course, entirely consistent with the core mythology of modern medicine: If something's wrong, you should poison it, burn it, irradiate it or cut it out... and then pronounce the patient "healed!"

In the case of memory-erasing drugs, scientists are reportedly working on a drug that would remove certain proteins from the brain's "fear center." This is based on the ludicrous idea, by the way, that memories are recorded solely by physical proteins in the brain -- an idea that's obviously based on an entirely outmoded mechanistic model of the human mind and brain.
Then again, modern medical science seems to be hopelessly stuck in the Dark Ages, believing that there must be a chemical cure for everything. Hence the ongoing waste of billions of dollars searching for a cancer cure as if it were some sort of acquired infection.
"Erasing a memory and then everything bad built on that is an amazing idea, and I can see all sorts of potential," said Kate Farinholt, executive director of the mental health support and information group NAMI Maryland, in a Baltimore Sun story (http://www.baltimoresun.com/health/...). But even she can see this approach could be fraught with danger: "Completely deleting a memory, assuming it's one memory, is a little scary. How do you remove a memory without removing a whole part of someone's life, and is it best to do that, considering that people grow and learn from their experiences?"  ...........................
Read more at   http://www.naturalnews.com/030493_memories_PTSD.html
and more about EFT at http://www.eftwonder.com/.

With happiness
Isaac Lim
http://www.eftwonder.com/

WARNING - MEDITATION CAN BE HAZARDOUS TO YOUR HEALTH!

WARNING - Meditation can be hazardous to your health if you have repressed and unresolved emotional issues. While thousands have benefited and found peace from meditation there are some who have abreactions that are caused by the sudden released of raw negative emotions that had been suppressed. The release is so overwhelming and traumatic that it can take days or even years to recover from it.

Recently in a single week of psychotherapy I had three clients telling me of their traumatic emotional experiences that was triggered by meditation. One did it unsupervised by following a book, the other with yoga and another went to a monastery in Nepal. The first two suffered anxiety attacks while the latter suffered severe abreactions that lasted two years and nearly killed her with bulimia. There is a need to warn people of the consequence of unsupervised and unsuitable subjects for meditation. If you intend to practice meditation it is advisable to learn techniques to clear suppressed negative emotions. EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques is one of the most easily taught and applied techniques that quickly and gently process negative emotions. I had used it to clear and help the above clients. It is fast as negative emotions are processed and removed in minutes. An hour with them involves removing several negative emotions and one or two issues. Many are unaware that repressed emotions can also lead to physical health issues. Everyone need to address this important emotional health issue. Many fail to do so because they think they have no issues or they can bear it. Why bear it and carry the emotional baggage around for the rest of your life when you can easily get rid of it? One day EFT workshops (http://www.eftwonder.com/) can equip you with a powerful tool that you can use for a life time of health. 

With Happiness

Isaac Lim
http://www.eftwonder.com/