Wednesday, January 2, 2013

The End?

THE END? or THE BEGINNING?

I attended a funeral yesterday. I was feeling miserable that I was not there to help her as she was in pain for three days before her death. My cousin was only 40 years old but have bravely and positively fought cancer for 6 years without accepting any western treatment (her own choice believing God will help her). During those years she never allowed her illness to dampen her exuberance for life. In her eulogy she was described as a person who wants to be remembered for her smile and love of life. I felt down because like a certain arachnid superhero his words rings true 'with power comes responsibility' and I felt I could at least help lessen her pain with qigong or EFT.
During the beautiful service her sister produced a letter written by the deceased. In it she introduced herself as one who had lived life to the fullest, visited all the countries she wanted to and she mentioned - that she knows her mother loves her. Few understood the significance of those words but my heart leap for joy as I knew then that I had indeed been able to help her find closure. You see in February I extended my help as a psychotherapist to her without charge. I though she would have issues about her cancer and death but instead her big issue was that she felt her parents had never loved her! That unresolved issue was bigger than cancer. I helped her see the possibilities that her parents like many Asian parents have difficulty expressing their love even to their own children but deep down in their hearts they have a special place for them. She mentioned how she hardly got to see her working parents. She comes home from school to an empty house, so instead she goes out with friends until late in the night. But you know what, her parents never question her where or who she had been with. Some teens may love that libertine attitude but she interpreted their lack of concern as 'they did not care or loved me'. My therapy approach was to help her feel that her parents loved her even if they are unable to express it. I led her to forgiveness if she felt they had failed as parents. Parenthood is never taught in schools. We learn on the job unfortunately sometimes with poor role models from our own parents or no parents.
At this point I would like to ask you, 'What would you do if tomorrow is the end of the world?'(nothing to do with the Mayan prophecy). Some would like to party for the last time. Others to find a companion, wife or someone to die with yet others would say something else. As for me I want to call up everyone whom I loved and tell them 'I love you' even if I had never told them so before. Perhaps we do not even need to wait for the end of the world. Perhaps we can do it now. Start with ourselves. Say 'I love myself'. If we have difficulty with that it is no wonder we are unable to express love verbally to others! It is time to ask yourself why and to resolve it with EFT.

Now back to the brightly lit funeral parlour. As I sat next to my younger brother I notice he was flexing his right arm and fingers. I noticed it was swollen and reddish. I asked why and he said it is very painful. Being in a crowded room and with a service proceeding I did not use my healing hands instead I used my 'yi' or intention and guided the energy in his body. I discharge the blocked energy in his arms and stabilize it. After 3 minutes of mind over matter work I asked him how is his arm now? He flexed his arm and open and closed his hands. He replied 'I can close my hand now'. I noticed it was not as swollen or inflamed  I did another 2 minutes of intentional healing and energized the arm so it will continue to heal for a few days.

I am a certified medical qigong practitioner. I took it up so I can understand what is this meridians we are tapping into with EFT. After understanding the principle of energy work experientially I discovered that you can manipulate it according to your needs. Energy healing is amazing and perhaps this is why people are sceptical. When you apply western psychology with energy work the results is a more efficient healing process that looks at emotions as energy and neutralize unprocessed negative emotions. This is what Energy Psychology is about. There are some new EFT off shot that had abandon the energy part and all I can say is it only diminishes the power of EFT. In the next Tapper's Gathering I would like to talk about energy healing and the electromagnetic nature of man and the latest scientific discoveries.
I would like to thank all my graduates and fellow EFT practitioners for all the support that had been given to make Energy Psychology Chapter successful. We certainly need your continued support in 2013.

With Happiness & A Happy New Year *******
Isaac Lim
Energy Psychology Centre
www.eftwonder.com